I watched a movie last night, 12 Dates of Christmas. It was one of those “relive-a-day-until-you-get-it-right” movies. A young woman on Christmas Eve is doing someone a favor by going on a blind date while in the same evening trying to get her ex-boyfriend back. She gets “spritzed” at the department store, passes out and repeats waking up 12 times. She goes from a selfish bitch to caring about the people that she comes in contact with during those fateful hours that repeat and repeat and repeat …
Realizing she gets a do-over, she starts experimenting with her approach to life and to people. She learns things about herself and about others, about having choices in how she treats people and how it affects the outcome. She is experimenting with life and enjoying the process. Over the course of 12 Christmas Eves she transforms from a woman absorbed in her own reality to noticing the people around her and beginning to get to know and care about them. She changes that day, those repeating hours, and discovers a new self. She becomes more open and joyful and caring, and starts living her life more like it matters, with intention.
After the movie I was thinking about this and how our life is kind of like that. Granted, we don’t get to relive the same day as in the same date, but for a lot of people many of their days are pretty similar. We wake up, go to school or work, see the same people every day. Yet more often than not we don’t realize the opportunities we have to be creative with our days, or even adventurous. Instead we let ourselves get lulled into routines that repeat and repeat and repeat ... and one day we wonder where our time, our lives, have gone. And wish we had lived more, tried more, had taken more chances or gotten to know the people around us better, had created more connection, lived with more purpose.
What a great time to reflect on this, the end of a year, a new beginning ahead. As I was watching the movie, it was just another happy/sappy Christmas love story, predictable, relaxing, easy to watch, not much depth to it. But then again, maybe you can find depth and meaning anywhere if you just look.
I wish you a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year. I will start mine with more presence and passion and intent for my life and my decisions. How about you?
& Happy New Year!
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