Big Rocks for 2017
One day this expert was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration I’m sure those students will never forget. After I share it with you, you’ll never forget it either.
As this man stood in front of the group of high-powered over-achievers he said, "Okay, time for a quiz." Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed mason jar and set it on a table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar.
When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class said, "Yes." Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks.
Then he smiled and asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?" By this time the class was onto him. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" he replied. And he reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?"
"No!" the class shouted. Once again he said, "Good!" Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked up at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"
One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard, you can always fit some more things into it!"
"No," the speaker replied, "that’s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don’t put the big rocks in first, you’ll never get them in at all."
What are the big rocks in your life? A project that you want to accomplish? Time with your loved ones? Your faith, your education, your finances? A cause? Teaching or mentoring others? Remember to put these Big Rocks in first or you’ll never get them
in at all.
I really like this metaphor! It helps me put things into perspective and reminds me to keep my priorities in focus. One of my Big Rocks for this year is to write and publish this book, Trip To Bliss. I believe creating a platform for women to share their stories about how they learned to orgasm, when at first it might have seemed elusive or even impossible, will make a difference for many, many women.
My purpose in life is to inspire and empower myself and others to greatness, to live love and to share the joy of being alive. And this book is one of the ways to live my purpose!
I invite you to take a moment and reflect on what YOUR big rocks for this year are. And to write them down and keep them in a place where you can review them from time to time to make sure this year doesn’t fly by like the last one did and at the end of it you feel like you didn’t really get to the things that are important to you. What would it feel like to get to the end of the year and have no regrets over time wasted, dreams not lived? If we do this every year we won’t get to the end of our lives wondering what we did with our precious time here. Use this idea, this concept, as your guidance system. Knowing where you’re going makes it easier to stay on track and more likely to accomplish what you set out to do. What is your life all about? What are your Big Rocks for this year? For your life?